Living Without Fear

Is it possible to live without fear?

Getting started. Taking the first step.

That’s the hardest part.

Especially when its at an unprecedented time in society, our country and ultimately the world. All we see/read/hear about right now is fear driven content and media surrounding the corona virus.

As someone who believes in a Dapper Lifestyle, I recognize (and so should you) that this is a time that someone who holds a high standard of themselves and others, who lives by strong values, who has integrity, who lives with confidence and swagger. This is a time that that is needed more than ever.

Raise the bar and set a new standard.

If you follow us on social, you know that I put out a recent Dapper Effects Live episode (audio recording of episode will come out on Monday 3/23) where I was talking about this and why its so important that if we have the awareness to step up and be a leader in our families, amongst our friends, in our communities and in our businesses that there has never been a greater time than now.

Leaders understand that fear can be a source of fuel.

How am I doing that right now? I have decided to take on the #75Hard challenge that Andy Frisella (one of the principal owners of 1st Phorm – sports nutrition) put together. Andy is pretty well known to be someone who has since 2015 consistently shared the formula and steps on what it takes to be successful through his social media outreach and podcast, The MFCEO Project. 

Andy recently put out his new podcast called Real AF. His tagline, “This is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society, and welcome to MotherF$#in reality”

^ yeah sounds like a tough message. You may not resonate with that kind of language, but you know what? He’s right.

If you are sick of what you’re seeing/hearing/reading and you recognize that you are called to step up for yourself and for others, I highly recommend following Andy on Instagram and checking out the 75Hard challenge. You can also learn more about it by going to 

75Hard is not another fitness challenge. It is a program designed to develop ultimate mental toughness. Your brain will begin to develop super powers. If you are an individual who wants to win at life, consider 75hard.

Lean into the fear.

Chances are, if you’re reading this, you are one of those people. We here at Dapper Effects stand for values and our sole mission is to give men confidence and swagger. I will be here working on becoming the best version of myself so that I can spread that beacon of hope for others. I hope you will do the same.

Be that beacon for your co-workers. Become a lighthouse for your family. Set the example for your community.


The famous poem by Dale Wimbrow from 1934 that rings relevant and true as if it was written today:

The Man In The Mirror
When you get all you want and you struggle for pelf,
and the world makes you king for a day,
then go to the mirror and look at yourself
and see what that man has to say.
For it isn’t your mother, your father or wife
whose judgment upon you must pass,
but the man, whose verdict counts most in your life
is the one staring back from the glass.
He’s the fellow to please,
never mind all the rest.
For he’s with you right to the end,
and you’ve passed your most difficult test
if the man in the glass is your friend.
You may be like Jack Horner and “chisel” a plum,
And think you’re a wonderful guy,
But the man in the glass says you’re only a bum
If you can’t look him straight in the eye.
You can fool the whole world,
down the highway of years,
and take pats on the back as you pass.
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

Written By:

Dr. Tom

Dr. Tom

Tom is one of the founders of Dapper Effects. He's also a licensed Ear Doctor running a variety of podcasts. He specializes in giving men confidence and just flat out awesomeness. Follow all of Toms Post on Dapper.

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